Here’s the thing about feedback on your writing. Lots of what you get from others is wolf stuff in sheep’s clothing.
It can be bogus, hinky and deceptive. My contention is that you’ve got to develop the fictional muscle to do the heavy lifting yourself. And since this is tough to do, we often mistakenly delegate the responsibility to others. “My writers’ group loved it.” “My husband thinks it’s my best yet.” Really? And how many books has your husband sold? Or those in your writers’ group. Zero is my bet.
Why oh why do we go to seminars and writers groups hoping to get the straight scoop on our writing project? The answer is that all too often we go to them for validation. We want to hear the story works well, maybe even that it’s brilliant. We want to hear that we have talent.